Mindfulness & Meditation

Mindfulness & Meditation

I haven't posted in awhile in my the mindfulness series, So here is the next segment for a week in June- do one each day in your journal...

 

#32

Finish this sentence: One of the most calming things I Can do when I am stressed is…

 

#33

Soundscape: Take 5 minutes and close your eyes and listen to the sounds around you.Shift your awareness to the low chatter, soft humming,sounds of nature or if the ceiling fan. just listen and breath it in. Do not define the sounds just breath slowly and deeply and keep a gentle awareness of the soundscape around you

 

#34

List everything that made you smile in the last 24 hours.

 

#35

Goal Digger – List your goals for 1 week , 1 month and 1 year from now. Then ask yourself “What will they bring me?”

 

#36

Find a quite place to sit. Now reach around yourself and give yourself a big hug!Feel the stretch around and along your arms and back. Take 3 deep breaths in this position then release and write down how you felt or the first thought you had.

 

#37

Speak up-Write down any words or thoughts you need to get off of your chest. read them aloud. How do you feel about vocalizing them?

BioHack the Stress In the Holidays

BioHack the Stress In the Holidays

Are you a busy women who’d like to get through this busy time of year with less stress and more Energy?

Do you plan on making the holidays less stressful EVERY year, but end up with CHAOS in your home anyway??

I can see you affirming this with your head nods!

I finally took control of this awful feeling and began implementing a new easier way to control the CHAOS of the holidays and take care of myself in the process. It is going to take a little action now for you to have a peaceful transition to A MORE joyful Holiday/Winter madness. Are you ready to look at 10 simple things to do now to keep your life calm during this time?

I will give you a basic overview here but would love to hear from each of you personally, in the comments, email or even schedule an appointment for a free clarity session-  so I can give you a master plan to Biohack your Holiday and make it less stressful and more enjoyable too!

  1. Clean your home- Schedule a day to do a thorough cleaning, Dust , Vacuum, sweep & mop floors, clean bathrooms,Windex all glass! – Let’s start with a clean slate
  2. Clear your clutter- those piles of______________- pick up a pile and keep – throw away – or donate. One pile a week.
  3. Have a family meeting to discuss what traditions each member of your family loves and hates. Make a simple list of favorites and keep it simple- Identify what’s most important to you. Eliminate everything else.
  4. Let go of the guilt and last minute stress of making “Homemade” gifts. Start now and keep it simple
  5. Stop the holiday WHINE! Commit to doing one thing each day to prepare for the holidays.
  6. Plan your holiday menus now and start buying your groceries with each visit to the grocery store. This means for your holiday baking too! Cookies, cakes, breads and rolls. List your ingredients and buy some this week.
  7. Make a gift list of all you want to buy for. Establish an amount that you want to spend and stick to it. Start shopping now. Also think about “Clutter Free” Gifts. Gifts of time.
  8. Set up a gift wrapping station. This consists of one roll of paper, tape, scissors, ribbon and a tag. Less is more.
  9. Your family can’t read your mind, help them and help yourself by letting go of the Holiday Martyr. Write down what you would like for a gift and give them your list. We ask our children to do this so that we at least have some idea. All they want to do is please you.
  10. Decorate in babysteps! Let go of your perfectionism of getting it all done at one time. Make a pleasant nightly ritual of putting one ornament on the tree or putting up one decoration.

Decorate less, shop less and Travel less & instead of these have a bit of relaxation- a hot bath, curl up with a good book by the fire, or just take a nap

  Our goal is to be ready for the holidays by December 1st !!

By getting everything in order now- we can be done in 3 weeks & then we are free to have fun and not be stressed out by the holidays. Are you ready to enjoy the holidays for the first time ever? WATCH for the next email for steps we take to Biohack the stress in our Holidays & Life!

Don't Stress Christmas

The northern skies are turning gray — Seems the sun just doesn’t linger. Christmas is just a month away, And the nights are getting longer. That Thanksgiving spent with family— A briefly pleasant holiday— Was forgotten all too quickly By pushy crowds on Black Friday. Our gift checklist seems like old Saint Nick’s, But our staff is lacking Elves. Shopping trips cause daily panics. I wonder how we’ll feed ourselves. We must buy more decorations, So the yard looks like it’s snowing. We fall deeper in depressions As our credit keeps on growing. Lord forgive commercialism For ruining every Christmas. Lord forgive consumerism For dumping on us all that stress. December is a dreary time, Even when little angels sing. The irony of Christmas time Was that Christ was born in the Spring. While standing in the checkout line, Remember what the carols told. Think of how Bethlehem’s star once shined, As Israel’s prophets foretold. Think of the awe of the shepherds When they saw angels fill the air. Coming to the stable, entered, To meet the Holy Family there. Instead of spending all you have, Next November and December, Spend time with all of those you love, And teach them what to remember. “A Savior born in Bethlehem” Should bring us joy and happiness; And “ Peace on Earth, goodwill to men” Should set us free, not bring us stress. Copyright © Mark J. Halliday | Year Posted 2014

Is Fear Disabling You?

Is Fear Disabling You?

I know you haven’t hear from me in a while, I have had some exciting things happening to me! I have a new Full Time job that I am doing- along side of my Coaching, helping people set up their own businesses! It’s fun and exciting and hopefully helping many people get out of the rat race of a JOB and begin their journey to a better life. I also went on a journey of my own and faced a fear of mine: I traveled alone, across the country. I was excited and afraid, but I did it! I was at a wonderful coaching course called SI Boot-camp with Mark & Magali Peysha- Learning a lot of new ways to create positive shifts and transformations in the people around me and strategies to help people, like you.

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It was intense and full of information, knowledgeable teachers and trainers- break out sessions and group exercises. I met people from all over the world!- I had a wonderful time and I’m so glad I went! Is fear something you deal with? Does it ever seem out of control? Leaving you debilitated, alone and trapped? You’re not alone- many people have fears. Fear of failure, fear of travel or driving long distances, fear of relationships & fear of finances or budgeting. It comes in many forms. Regardless of your fear, I fully believe that we can alter the course of our destiny in wondrous ways when we invite FEAR into our lives the very lessons that frighten us most.! We overcome them through spirit-universal energy-God…what ever you might believe. We are meant to work our way through our fears- when we extend an invitation to to meet our fears, even as our knees are knocking and chest is pounding and anxiety is rising and stomach churning- through all of this- This wondrous Spirit- higher being to which we believe is smiling down on us; applauds us and gifts us with Amazing Grace. Regardless of how we look at our fears- whether we’ve caused our problems or are caught in the snares of others, in the midst of crisis or running from them for some time–we ultimately have 3 choices! One: to ignore it and hope it goes away- which leads to ulcers, stress and other bad habits of drink, drugs and food indulges to numb the pain. Two: Try to live with it. Not forever. Three: Look for the gift within the fear and gain benefits from it. When we do, we emerge on the other side- stronger than before-and surprised by joy. Be joyful because it is possible! Do not let fear hold you back, let it teach you and give you strength!Do you need help in this? Please do not hesitate- reach out to me,  Simpy click here to get you FREE session with me today!  

Am I  Significant? Do I Matter?

Am I Significant? Do I Matter?

 

 Significance: Most people have 6 human needs one is significance. If they aren’t feeling important or special and worthy of attention or needed than they act very differently. Maybe sad, angry or depressed.

There is a pattern of thoughts which we can live inside of. It’s called the crazy eight pattern We have a tendency to be happy on the upswing but when we’re not doing well – we‘re on the down side. Which one do you stay at mostly? If you slide down into a depression or anger then you might have issues with feeling significance.

Ask yourself: Am I Not feeling Significant right now?

What thoughts am I having that make me feel insignificant right now?When you feel like things are out of control, which side of the this pattern are you on: The upward or downward???  The downward, which isn’t very good. When we are angry we blame our loved ones, not because it will help, not because they are responsible but because anger helps us feel significant and certain.

Just know the past does not equal the future.

You can change you’re patterns of anger.

Although we can’t always control events that come into our life we can learn to control how we experience these things. We will always encounter stressful events like job loss, health issues or losing someone we love.- Something happens that’s outside of our control and it can knock us down, the stress can cause us the anger sadness or other emotions that cause us pain. But these feelings do not come from facts. They come from the meaning we give the facts.

The things that happen are REAL – Of course but the questions is:

How are you going to allow them to shape you’re life?

Are you going to continue on this crazy eight pattern  and let it tear you down or are you going to use it to empower and change you? To enlighten the way you go through the rest of your life? It’s all about the meaning that you give the events and experiences of your life. Because when you come up with a new meaning, you can get a new perspective, and, ultimately, a new life.

We all tell ourselves stories that make us miserable because were not feeling significant, when we could be feeling joy. We make ourselves feel sad, worried, anxious, shameful, guilty, fearful and enraged on a consistent basis. Why? Because we are wired that way.The human mind is always looking for what you could lose, what you could have less of or what you could never have; Significance being one of them. It might seem counter intuitive, but it’s a matter of survival and of protection. You are biologically wired to prepare yourself for the worst at all times. That is why it is up to you to take conscious control over the stories you tell yourself and the resulting emotions you experience.

 

The choice is yours.

What are you going to focus on?

What story are you going to let guide your life?

 

You get to choose what meaning to assign. This is the one power that you have right now in this moment that can change everything – even how significant you feel. The only thing keeping you from the joy you deserve is the -dis-empowering story you keep telling yourself.

But what if you decided right now to offer yourself a new core of belief? What if everything in your life, including the most painful and traumatic events, was happening for you, not to you? What if everything was designed for you to actually have a greater life and have more to give and more to enjoy?

If you want real freedom in your life, you must make a decision to stop allowing external events to shape your happiness and significance. And that is only done by becoming the master of significance and finding the empowering meaning in anything and everything that comes your way.

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to have a free consultation to help you move forward into a new life : a life of freedom : a life you love!

Spice Up Your Life with Variety

Spice Up Your Life with Variety

Variety, what is this exactly? Is it the spice of life?

Is it change or new things? It can be different for many.

 Some people have a lot going on in their life and some do not – so, variety could just mean a change of pace either to slow down or do more?  If your life is full of whirlwind events and issues, maybe your variety would be to calm it down, do less and achieve a sense of calm and tranquility.

“Better is a handful of quietness than two hands full of toil and a striving after wind.” ~ Ecclesiastes 4:6

Maybe, a day of rest, an inner retreat of sorts. A day alone and full of nothing to do. Try online yoga, a quiet meditation, bubble bath or candle lit dinner for one. Try to taking an hour a day for yourself. If you get a lunch hour, instead of running around shopping or doing things, just find a quiet place and sit with yourself.

As I read these words I can totally relate, as I have done my fair share of toil and striving. I feel that as I get older, I see what I couldn’t see as a younger person. All the striving for things…they mean nothing really. I find such solace now, just listening to the birds and feeling the cool breeze on my skin on a hot day. I have so much to be thankful for and appreciate all that I have. The breath in my lungs, another day to enjoy the laughter of my children and a much calmer mind after learning the yoga and meditation practices I’ve been doing.

But if you’re the quiet type person as it is, a new variety for your life might be getting yourself out there,trying new things & experiencing new adventures are in your future. Do you feel alone and scared to do things? Then you really must add variety to your life.

Maybe look for a meetup group online or go to the library to see if there are book clubs, cooking classes or events you can go to. Start simple, then get more adventurous. Have you ever wanted kayak or canoe? Be adventurous –  go to a nearby lake, rent one and paddle away! Or create an art class for friends, adventure days to movies or outings in the area. Try a local evening class at a college or community center like Salsa dancing or archery classes! Other ideas are to try a bus excursion to a historical place or beach town, have lunch with champagne alfresco, or just make a list of local parks and visit one new one a month.

Spices are these little things – mostly seed, fruit, root, bark; which are used in nutritionally insignificant quantities to bring a bit of effervescence to your foods… so bring a bit of effervescence to your life!  Spices also serve as a preservative by killing or preventing the growth of harmful bacteria. Just like in nature, if the water is still or stagnant it will begin to show signs of bacterial growth. Stir it up with a fountain and special plants and viola, a beautiful oasis..

So, the phrase,” Variety is The Spice of Life” was probably coined to express how variety, by adding it to your life, can enhance your spirit and bring joy to your heart. Instead of life being a crazy whirlwind or depressed and lonely, just adding it in our lives could have the effect of a spice and enhance our everyday existence.

Variety does to our everyday lives, the same thing that spice does to food. It makes it more fun, more interesting, more meaningful. And sometimes, just likes a preservative, it can cure depression and alleviate boredom.

So, why not add a bit of SPICE to your life and you will wake up each morning looking forward to a different day.
Let’s live life to the fullest, experiment, innovate, enjoy variety and you will find you can really spice up your life!

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The Power Of Certainty!

The Power Of Certainty!

Successful people will do what failures won’t!

The Power of Certainty. What is that… you may ask? This world is so uncertain anymore. The economy, the politics, the weather; all of it is uncertain!

The definition of Certainty is :
free from doubt or reservation; confident; sure:
destined; sure to happen:
inevitable; bound to come:
established as true or sure; unquestionable; indisputable:
fixed; agreed upon; settled:
definite or particular, but not named or specified:.
that may be depended on; trustworthy; unfailing; reliable:
So, what I am speaking of is that feeling you get when you have a knowing of something that it is sure to happen, definite, confident & sure. You can have a feeling of certainty with your Job, relationships or nourishment some things are certain and others aren’t. Within the realm of success, you can have certainty as well as uncertainty but to become successful you must be certain of things. The things you want & can do. You can overcome and become more than you are.That is The power of certainty!

There is a power of certainty that successful people have, that brings about their success, that failure don’t have. Do you want success? Then you must become certain-Certain you can attain it. Certain that you want it. Certain that you can overcome obstacles. Upon studying this topic I’ve found that there are several areas that successful people have within the power of certainty.

Purpose Driven

Those who are more successful often go to work to get something accomplished. They work to make their dreams a reality, not just to get their eight hours in. Unsuccessful people often approach their work with a more limiting mindset. They may refer to work in a negative way: “the daily grind” or “my life as a drone.” They typically complain as opposed to looking at work as a means to an end, to create a life of abundance. Work—the passion for it, the creation of it, your contribution and what you learn from others—is what typically leads to goals being met and dreams becoming reality.
They are driven, and they push and shove until the job is done and targets are hit, and then they go again. They’re able to stay focused on getting results. A power of certainty! These folks often keep doing the hard things long after others are only doing what’s comfortable.
Whereas unsuccessful people appear to spend a lot of time in emotions and considerations that cause them to stop or settle and then rationalize how these feelings should be satisfied.

No Excuses

Regardless of how many excuses they make, successful people often know that it will not change the outcome. Even justified excuses don’t automatically make a project or person successful. When things go wrong, the successful person often sees it as an opportunity, not an insurmountable hurdle. Unsuccessful people tend to spend a lot of energy and time making excuses, blaming the economy, the customer, prices or competition. Even if the “excuses” are all true, just complaining about it likely won’t improve the outcome, and successful people know this. No matter how justified you are, try never to make an excuse for any outcome.

Focus on  Goals

Successful people tend to be focused on success. If you can stay focused on what you want, you will get it no matter how absurd the goal. The power of Certainty! The idea is to make the things you want and haven’t yet accomplished so real in your mind that they become real in your world.Less successful people seem to allow anything to drift into their environments—they aren’t controlling what they focus on. Every day presents an opportunity to set and reach goals regardless of how large or small they are.

Be Willing to Fail

The old saying, “no risk, no reward” seems to apply to those who are successful. These people often go for it almost with a willingness to fail. Of course, they aren’t interested in failing, but they know that if they don’t put themselves in a position to fail, they’ll never create the ability to win.
Unsuccessful people seem to play it safe. They may not speak up or offer ideas because they operate from a place of fear. They may be afraid to fail because they’re overly concerned with the judgment of others so they do the minimum and try to “fly under the radar.” Never be afraid of failure, because behind every mistake is an opportunity to learn.
Taking a look at the failures and tough times of others is one of the best ways to get over your own shortcomings . It’s important to see that failure is a part of the process, and that to be successful you absolutely must learn to make it a tool as opposed to roadblock. Failure hurts, and that may never change, but it’s how you learn to get better.

Know How to Say No

We all know focus is what leads to success. And focus means saying no to everything that is not your main “thing.” Focus means doing fewer things, not more. Successful people focus. Failures try to do too many things. They can’t say no. They have no focus.That is why they fail. Be bold. Say No when it’s not right for you.

Begin to willingly do these things, and you may soon see things change for the better in your business and life. Because doing what others refuse to do can give you the edge you need to find the success you want.That is the power of Certainty. Do things that bring you towards your new life and goals everyday and you will see changes you want in your life.